About Pragmatic Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not a last resort, it’s the first stop. Pragmatic forgiveness is as essential, basic, dynamic, and profound as eating. There is the concept of forgiveness, and then there is the actual application of it. It provides a nonreligious approach to utilizing forgiveness—intended to capture all human beings, no matter what “compartment” they’ve placed themselves in: religious, spiritual, agnostic, atheist, nothing, or “I don’t know.”

Forgiveness is a practice. It’s about healing your own heart and mind–sometimes others benefit from it; sometimes they do not–and it’s about not being attached to that outcome. Forgiveness is about looking into the limitations that you’ve placed on yourself or allowed another to place on you and then freeing yourself from any limitations.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean you are excusing the “crime;” it just means you are no longer willing to be the victim–forgiveness prevents their words and/or behavior from destroying your heart.

“True forgiveness is breaking the emotional charge and energetic bond to our painful past, whatever that might be. What you’re left with is a memory, and a memory without the emotional charge is called wisdom.”
-Dr. Joe Dispenza

This is why when you truly forgive you do “forget.” The memory has been freed and the emotional cords that once tethered it to you have been eliminated. The memory is no longer top-of-mind, and becomes very distant; able to be called upon if needed for something important. But, when called upon it no longer has a charge and so you either have no reaction to it or feel peace and LOVE.

***The Pursuit of Forgiveness 2.0: Unlocking Pragmatic Forgiveness is now available on Audible.